I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the author of the book. That is why I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explains why he/she thought the four chords meant that people were behaving ruthlessly and selfishly, I might have received an answer. As things stand, I agree with the idea that, toltec or not, these principles are a healthy way of life and are consistent with the good practices supported by modern psychology: at the end of the day, I think it is important that your own agreements lead to the consequences you want. Communicating with ourselves, not taking things personally (#2) gives us the opportunity to look inward, to find and change the old arrangements and beliefs — most of the lies of our domestication in childhood — that involve us emotionally and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the “dream” of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift from Toltec Wisdom. In addition, the “word” has been translated from the Greek “logos”, which is not used as a word in the gramatic sense of the term – so there is no comparison, no resemblance, which is why I find it a journey of imagination to believe that an analogy was the intention. If we have established relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship) that the exchanges are for information purposes in the name of intimacy, not a complaint or a request to repair anything to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself… That`s impressive. This is a vulnerable intimacy and can go anywhere (no attachment to the result).
Where it`s going to go is more truth, especially if the person who hears this sharing can go into his emotional body and find out what`s going on in response to sharing and then share YOUR emotional truth right now. PS: It doesn`t matter if this wisdom comes directly from a culture of 2000 years ago. Make it your own and transform your life! We have to break many old arrangements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone who hurts us or who is angry without judging to withdraw, defend, accuse, intellectualize, share their dream.